"Did she break up with you because you were too much of a "nice guy"?"

As a coach who teaches men how to get women, I hear from a lot of recently-dumped guys who tell me, "I did everything for my girlfriend. But then the one moment she needs me to comfort her, and the next moment she tells me she needs space."

What's going on here? Didn't you always hear that you should "be a nice guy to get that dream girl"?

How did that work out for you? Since she's breaking up with you now, you know the answer to that one!

You may even have noticed that your girl seems to be more attracted to men who aren't right for her, especially if she's with a "rebound boy" right now. You see, while women may know on an INTELLECTUAL level that they should date the "nice guy," what they gravitate to instead is the man who gives them certain FEELINGS.

An interesting task I give the guys I coach is to have them observe the kind of guy who is able to get and (more importantly) KEEP a woman attracted to him. By this I mean the sort of guy who, years after he stops dating a woman, she's still pining for him.

When you do this assignment, you see the men with the most success are the ones who are celebrities, or the local stud at the gym, or the leaders and alpha males in life. Now, you don't need to become a rock star, actor, muscle-head, or a millionaire captain of industry to become an attractive guy. What you need to do is become a man with a lot going on in his life.

You want your ex to see you as interesting and fun. Maybe you make her laugh sometimes.

Notice I'm not telling you to become a jerk. They key point is that women are attracted to men who give them good feelings, not the "nice" guy. The problem with the nice guy is that he seems needy to the girl.

Think back to recent events with your girl. If you take an honest look, you'll see instances where you were a weak man, always putting pressure on her and breathing down her neck. The result of this was you were pushing her away.

So, what you need to do now is get yourself together. Assert yourself right now by telling your ex that YOU need some time and space, and that maybe you can be friends again eventually. Then follow through, and keep her cut off from communication with you for a full three weeks. This gives you time to build your attractiveness, so that when you re-initiate communication with your ex, she'll be blown away by the attractive new man you've become.

If you're ready to take that next step, check out my ebook "How to Get a Girl Back in 30 Days or Less," which is a nearly foolproof remedy for breaking up that will teach you exactly what to do and say to get your ex back.